The beginning of any relationship is usually a lot of fun because of the fantasies it comes with (regardless it is a bit stressful). At the beginning of every relationship, especially first timer lovers: Someone you like and enjoy feels the same way about you. What could feel better than that, right? It usually the best feelings and moment as the parties think nothing but themselves. But even if both parties are on the same thought feelings-wise, it’s still important to maintain decorum because, no matter how the two are into each other, there are still some right and wrong ways to begin any new relationship that can ruin the whole thing. It is therefore that reason that birthed this thoughtful short article.
Of course, it’s totally natural to feel deep passion and attraction for the person you’re attracted to, but being so enraptured may cause you to ignore potential red flags, such as the misalignment of our core beliefs and values
To ensure those fantasies does not turn to chasing a goose, we have compiled by research and by experience the do’s and don’ts in a relationship.
Our list comprises of the things that can ruin your chances of getting what took you to the relationship ab ini tio….
- Make sure to have healthy and effective communication : Communication is one key that keeps a relationship going…oops, did I tell you it revives a dying relationship? it does because I have revived a dying relationship of 3 years when I rejuvenate the ncommunication in the year 2016 . Don’t always be vague, Say what you mean and mean what you say, be direct and considerate, choose battles wisely, treat your partner well, and avoid destructive things like yelling, insulting, and judging,” You may notice that you feel like you can read your childhood friends’ minds because you know them so well, but that kind of closeness comes with time and, unfortunately, years together is the one thing you and your new partner don’t have. You can’t expect him to be able to guess what you’re thinking, so be as communicative as you possibly can.
Communication in a relationship does not only revive and keep a relationship going but it keeps the mind of an opposite sex to you
2 Don’t Have Sex Too Soon
Unless you want to make it a sexual relationship, do not be a hurry to have sex in a relationship you want to last on,such relationship is said to be built on a faulty foundation and I guess you know what happens to a building on a faulty foundation! opps… it collapses
We live in a time of sex-positivity, meaning we don’t believe that you should wait until a certain amount of time goes by before having sex with your new partner for the first time. “The amount of time to wait before having sex differs for every couple; there is no such thing as too soon or too long. The right time is when both people are 100% ready,” The worst thing you can do in a new relationship is to have sex before you feel ready because you’re worried he’ll lose interest in you if you wait. Don’t be too quick to sex
3 Don’t Denigrate Yourself
Do not allow your past affect your current relationship, it is just a lesson not a life imprisonment, you get that right….not a life imprisonment
If you have things in your past that you consider less than ideal—for example, if you just got fired or your previous partner cheated on you—then find a way to discuss or disclose these things in a positive light,” Keeping these things secret because you want her to see you a certain way is never a good idea.
Being vulnerable is part of dating, especially in the early stages of a new relationship, so you shouldn’t feel any shame in sharing about past relationships (or anything else, for that matter). No one expects perfection, so hiding experiences that shape you into who you currently are isn’t necessary
4. Do Respect Yourself
Treating yourself well sets an example of how your partner should treat you, and it signifies what you will and will not tolerate. “There’s nothing wrong with being principled, knowing yourself, and being yourself,” Campbell offers. “Do things for yourself, too.” If he calls you with an impromptu date invitation, but you need a self-care night to put on a face mask and snuggle with your furry friend, suggest a different day for date night.
5. Don’t Be Close-Minded
“Try to remain open to trying new foods and participating in new activities, “The start of a new relationship ought to be light and fun, and things can become more serious with time.” With that in mind, maybe keep the conversations about highly controversial topics to a minimum in the beginning
6. Do Watch Out for Red Flags
Campbell says that ignoring red flags only prolongs the inevitable demise of the relationship. If, say, your new love criticizes you, makes plans and repeatedly cancels, you catch her in a lie, or you see him treating others poorly, “they’re probably not worth investing in for the long-term,” she notes. Trust us, it’s easy to throw on a pair of rose-colored glasses when you really like someone because you want to see the best in them, but it’s important to see all of someone, not just the good things.
7. Don’t Skip the Sexual Health Conversation
“If you aren’t comfortable asking them about STDs and STIs or telling them about your own sexual health, it’s not yet the time to have sex,” Wait until you’re both comfortable having an honest conversation about health before becoming intimate. That way, you’ll be able to enjoy it more and have a bit more confidence in the relationship.
You also shouldn’t feel shame talking about sex outside of health. Tell your partner what you like, what you don’t like, and what you’d want to try.
8. Do Maintain Independence
Spending every waking moment with a new partner can put you at risk of losing yourself and your friends, too. “In the most long-lasting relationships, partners maintain their sense of independence,. “See family and friends, continue to exercise and work hard, and prioritize alone-time; balance is important.” If you make your whole life about your new partner, you end up putting a lot of pressure on the relationship to be your sole source of happiness and fulfillment.
9. Don’t Blow up His Phone
Every date can feel like a first date in a new relationship because there’s so much ground to cover: where you went to school, what your hometowns are like, and how many pets you had growing up, among about a million other topics to address. Our advice? Save these sweet stories for in-person dates. , “If they initiated plans the first time, you can initiate the second time and so on, but don’t always be the person texting first, calling, and initiating plans.”
If he gets used to you being the one doing all of the planning and reaching out, he’ll stop making an effort because he knows you will
According to Donatus Ibe the author of this article, mixing things up early on is a great idea. Instead of the usual Netflix-and-chill scenario, she suggests taking morning walks together, scheduling lunch dates, and enjoying the company of friends and colleagues. “It can be illuminating to see your partner navigate different situations and relationships,” she adds. Plus, one of the quickest roads to a breakup is monotony, so try to avoid getting stuck in a rut too early on by keeping each date different than the last. Keep in mind: You don’t have to spend a ton of money to have a great date with your new partner.
10. Do Add Variety to Your Dates
According to Dr. Campbell, mixing things up early on is a great idea. Instead of the usual Netflix-and-chill scenario, she suggests taking morning walks together, scheduling lunch dates, and enjoying the company of friends and colleagues. “It can be illuminating to see your partner navigate different situations and relationships,” she adds. Plus, one of the quickest roads to a breakup is monotony, so try to avoid getting stuck in a rut too early on by keeping each date different than the last. Keep in mind: You don’t have to spend a ton of money to have a great date with your new partner.